First date (ever)

[Jelly]

I'll be having my very first date somewhat soon, which in my eyes, is a huge event. We're going to the movies to watch a romantic film (some movie called "Becoming Jane"). I'm 15 and she's 13 (and a half) (stfu, Mikkel, I'm not a pedophiliac). So I was wondering if any of you could give me some advice on how not to screw it up completely?

Thanks in advance.

 

[pimpsta]

I'll be having my very first date somewhat soon, which in my eyes, is a huge event. We're going to the movies to watch a romantic film (some movie called "Becoming Jane"). I'm 15 and she's 13 (and a half) (stfu, Mikkel, I'm not a pedophiliac). So I was wondering if any of you could give me some advice on how not to screw it up completely?

Thanks in advance.

Wow these boys are growing up fast!

1) don't overload yourself with cologne
2) Dress usual but nice
3) be yourself
4) first date isn't first base
5) carry condom in case of EMS (you better use it, NOT AS BALLOON)
6) take gum, breath mint, or anything to fresher your breath.
7) Don't try to have a erraction just for putting your arms around her.
8) rubber band your balls
9) Pay for everything for her including the tickets, food, drinks, or whatever but not stuff from the mall or salvation army.
10) don't show off
11) learn how to unlock the bra
12) shave really good

I think I got pretty much everything cover.

 

[Mikkel]

Date her when she is done with the kindergarden!!

 

[Jelly]

Date her when she is done with the kindergarden!!

Dude, seriously, :?, 2 years isn't that much of a difference.

 

[Mikkel]

(stfu, Mikkel, I'm not a pedophiliac).

By saying that I had to respone!

EDIT: I did not make it up!

 

[Thothie]

Yeah, my friend and his wife are 13 years apart and they're happy.

...okay, that may not work for you.

*sigh* It suddenly occurs to me, that I can't even remember my first date... Or even my first kiss... I remember my first Kiss with my second Fiancée, but needless to say, that was several dozen first kisses from my first kiss... Blarg, even the first bedding is fuzzy (both of them – long story).

In anycase, my advice would be: stop thinking about it. Don't plan it out, don't fret, just go and be yourself (or whoever you were that got you the date to begin with), and go with the flow. This species didn't survive so many millions of years of evolution without picking up a breeding instinct or two. It'll work itself out.

(Or you could do what I always do, and ignore her to the point where she thinks you really don't want her, and thus automatically becomes psychotically attached in a frightfully dependant way, leading to her putting bullets through your door when you finally get around to realizing that what she was thinking was right, now that she's so annoyingly fixated on you that you can't even visit the restroom without her tagging along like a sick puppy. This is of course not advisable for long term relationships, or if you like your front doors.)

 

[PBarnum]

Well, the first date is always hard. But since you both are young, movies are the best choice.

With a dinner date, It is automatically better because you can do so many different things before/during/after. But you must have good conversation skills.

A movie date only consists of going to the movie, being silent through out the movie, and taking her home. But with the movie date, you dont need to be great at conversations and if you get the next date, you have something to talk about. I.E. Talk about the movie, events that are similar, how you are connected to the movie, ect.

Always ask her questions to make her think you are interested. But know when to talk yourself.

Good luck.

 

[Jelly]

Thanks, I appreciate your advice, guys.

 

[pimpsta]

Always ask her questions to make her think you are interested. But know when to talk yourself.

::BUZZ:: wrong... never "always" ask her questions just to make her think your interesting.

The way I do it is just to carry a conversations but first date is too soon to be asking questions.

 

[villager]

Don't take pimpsta's advice, he's "divorced".

 

[pimpsta]

Don't take pimpsta's advice, he's "divorced".

at least I didn't commit adultery.

 

[Sabre]

Don't take pimpsta's advice, he's "divorced".

at least I didn't commit adultery.

And he did?

Point besides, just don't fret over it...Don't feel like you have to push something forward, just because of what everyone else says.

I always find it funny when people ask for RL advice on the forums...Dunno why though, maybe it's the responses

 

[Tull]

Don't take pimpsta's advice, he's "divorced".

at least I didn't commit adultery.

And he did?

Point besides, just don't fret over it...Don't feel like you have to push something forward, just because of what everyone else says.

I always find it funny when people ask for RL advice on the forums...Dunno why though, maybe it's the responses

Well, its still RL humans asking and RL humans responding, so it shouldn't much of a difference between this and asking a bunch of people at the gym/school/work/wherever you spend your days.

 

[HumanSteak]

The best advice I can say is be yourself at all time, don't try to show a better "you" than you really are. That is the most important part in my opinion .
If you make special efforts constantly, she will notice if you ever stop and will be disapointed by the real you and will say stuff like "You're not the guy I knew anymore *cry cry*
If you want to impress her or show special attention, don't everdo it, just do what your heart feels like doing.

 

[ceriux]

pay attention to what she does... if she wants something she will give a hint. very very small one... but a hint non the less... (unless shes a hoe.) once she hints don't hesitate do what shes hinting she wants.

 

[HomestarR]

Do something fun. Don't just go to the movies and leave it at that. Play games or something too. Movies are great, but doing fun things afterwards really make for a memorable experience. I don't know what it is you kids do for fun, but I am sure you can think of something (And please, not sex, you are both way too young.)

 

[Durak]

pay attention to what she does... if she wants something she will give a hint. very very small one... but a hint non the less... (unless shes a hoe.) once she hints don't hesitate do what shes hinting she wants.

Do something fun. Don't just go to the movies and leave it at that. Play games or something too. Movies are great, but doing fun things afterwards really make for a memorable experience. I don't know what it is you kids do for fun, but I am sure you can think of something (And please, not sex, you are both way too young.)

What a great thread. You get such good, consistant advice for use in real life.

P.S. Don't worry about it, not as important as you think.

 

[PBarnum]

Pimpsta, you must be the dumbest person when it comes to women. Dont say I am wrong when my way always works.

 

[Fadda]

Christ..

Just be yourself to be honest. Don't think too much about what you do, and what she does. Simply get adjusted to the situation, and yes, DO listen to what she says, and please, ask in on her.

Keep her interest. Tho it's hard at the movies as you can't talk. But, but.. it leads to some hand helding and shit. Good luck tho.

 

[pimpsta]

Pimpsta, you must be the dumbest person when it comes to women. Dont say I am wrong when my way always works.

-sigh- everyone have different ways around women. There are no right or wrong ways to handle em.

Don't think yourself too perfect P.

 

[Thothie]

There maybe no right way, but there are several wrong ways.

 

[The Man In Black]

So should we just switch to giving out the wrong ways so he knows what NOT to do?

First NOT: You should NOT go to a forum and talk about yer first date.

 

[J-M v2.5.5]

Second NOT: You should NOT listen to The Man In Black.

 

[The Man In Black]

Aww

 

[PBarnum]

I don't think myself as perfect, only right compared to you seeing how I have not have had a failed first date.

Jelly, you never explained what happened on the date.